Here is no particular order are some of my top rules for a happy life. These are some of the ideas/life lessons that I most frequently share with others.
Make peace with your parents. They did the best that they could based on the information available to them at the time. They love you and have sacrificed for you. And they are not getting any younger. Take them out to eat. Enjoy their company. Ask them about what life was like when they were growing up.
If you’re young and unattached (or old and unattached) kiss someone you think is out of your league; don’t worry about if they will call you or not.
Work some type of a service job that puts you in a role of servitude. This should help you gain some understanding of how tipping works, how to keep your cool around those who are “difficult” and how a few kind words can change someone’s day.
Recognize freedom as a 5:30 a.m. trip to the beach to watch the sun come up with your favorite person.
Go away to school and live in a dorm. At least for a semester to two. Even if you don’t think college is for you. Just living in the dorm will teach you as much as your classes do.
Do you have a job? Then open a savings account. You never know when you might be unemployed or need to get away for a few days. Even if it’s just $10 a week. $520 is more than you would’ve had if you did nothing.
And if you have a job that has a 401(k) start one immediately. And put the maximum 15% into it. Mark Twain said that compound interest is the 8th wonder of world. If you start putting away 15% at age 25 and continue to do so for 40 years you will have saved close to $1.5 MILLION and that’s without any matches by an employer. Add that in and your total at age 65 will be around $2 MILLION. So, boys and girls what have we learned??? Start saving EARLY!!!!
Go outside! Even if it’s winter. Enjoying the sunlight and relax. Invite a few friends/neighbors over and forget about the internet. Yeah, FaceBook or Pinterest will still be there when you log back on 🙂
Brunch. It’s the best meal of the day. Invite some girlfriends over, pour some Mimosas and get caught up on some girl time. Casual, easy.
No is a perfectly good word to use. Learn to say it to yourself. Don’t keep doing something just because you have always done it; stop wasting an entire day on the couch if you’re going to complain about not getting anything done.
You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Choose wisely!
Identify your fears and instead of letting them dictate your every move, face them. Head on. Take that fear and make it work for you not against you. Don’t settle.
Make a habit of cleaning up and letting go. Just because it fit at one point doesn’t mean you need to keep it forever — whether ‘it’ is your favorite pair of pants or your ex.
Learn to love yourself. You are worth it. Regardless of what you look like, how much you make, if you “fit in” or not. You have wisdom and experience to share with others.
Go out and watch that movie, read that book, listen to that band you have always wanted to see live. And take a friend or your dad or someone you want to get to know better. Just GO!
Make a habit of telling people how you feel, whether it means writing a gushing email to someone whose work you love or telling your boss why you deserve a raise. Be honest and sincere.
Travel as often as possible. Don’t be a tourist – be a traveler. Engage with the locals. Ask them where their favorite little cafe or boutique is and then go there. Sit down and play chess (even if you don’t know how to play chess) with the old guys in the park and listen to them talk. You learn and grow more in traveling than anything else you can do. Embrace new and different cultures, food and experiences.
Quit that job that’s making you miserable, end the relationship that takes from you far more than it gives, lose the friend whose sole purpose in life is complaining about life. You’re young (or maybe you’re old – who cares!), you’re resilient, there are other jobs and relationships and friends if you’re patient and open.
What other words of wisdom do you find that you give to others? What is the one thing that has surprised you as you travel down the road of life? Share your wisdom with us in the comments!
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